Time to spring clean your parenting resolutions
- katiaroymsg
- Apr 1, 2020
- 2 min read
Updated: May 28, 2020
Each year on 1st January (or just before) you take resolutions, such as stop saying “No” or “Don’t” to your children, stop using your mobile constantly to read your texts or emails while
with your children, stop or start working from home as it doesn't suit you or your family.
3 months on, you realise you gave up your resolutions after a week or two.
No matter how much you committed to these changes and you're back where you started.
Why it didn’t work?
Funny how we always know what we don’t want but don’t know rather than what we want...
There are many reasons why it didn’t work, the important one is that we can’t take
resolutions and see them through when we concentrate on what we don’t want rather than what we want.
Spring is here and is also a good time to make commitments. The time of rebirth, of renewal, regrowth… Perfect time to revisit and review your parenting resolutions while feeling more alive, the days are longer, we have more energy and feel happier! Even more this springtime with its unusual turn in the shape of Covid-19 and the lockdown imposed on our families. A rethink is necessary.
Here are the four resolutions my clients are making at the moment:
Press the “pause” button. We live hectic lives where we never take the time to stop, to rethink… We are constantly acting and reacting and rarely take the time to reassess our lives, to give ourselves a feedback of what we are happy with, what we are not, what need to be continued and what need to be done differently.
Observe your children Maria Montessori said that every person who wants to understand children must have the soul of a scientist. Observing is looking carefully, taking notes objectively in order to analyse and draw conclusions. Parents must take time to observe (at least take the time to pay attention to what their children are doing and how they are doing it) to be aware of what they are capable of in order to intervene appropriately and especially, to intervene only when necessary. Most interventions from the adult are not necessary.
Make a list of what your parenting goals are and what you want to achieve No matter what type of education you chose for your children, no matter what type of parents you are, you need to be clear of what you want and expect instead of what you don’t want. That’s important to have a plan and concentrate on the result you expect and on how you can achieve it instead of focusing on the negative, or inappropriate behaviour for example that you want to eradicate. Parenting, educating is all about building and not destroying.
Learn to see and observe with your children's eyes. Changing your perspective is probably a priority and will also help you seeing the good in how you parent.
I can hear you say: "Easier said than done!" and you're right and this is the reason I'm dedicating my life to parenting in collaboration with families.
I am here for you so get in contact to meet each other and start crafting these resolutions to ensure a long term change in no time.
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